If you got it, don’t flaunt it

It’s 2025. The world has evolved. Fashion has been reinvented. So does modesty really matter? Or is it an outdated expectation placed on women?

Let’s be real: modesty isn’t “sexy” from a worldly perspective. You look online on Shein, Temu and shop in store and you’ll be bombarded with thousands of dresses that look the part but don’t cover the parts. 

The world has slowly started to show us that it’s not cool to cover up. That’s why they say, “if you got it, flaunt it” but what I would urge you, sisters in Christ is that if you got it, honor it like it’s the temple of God. A sacred place that should be washed, clothed and dignified with purity, to be presented to Jesus above all else. 

Will modesty get me a husband?

In short, yes. The men that matter, the men that treasure God and understand what a Godly woman is will chase after you, and want you to keep your clothes on. 

Although its a natural tendency for a man’s gaze to shift to a woman in a skimpy dress versus a woman dressed decently, at the same time it is the modest woman who will be exalted by God and not man. A real man that loves God will find Godliness to be the most attractive quality in a woman. No amount of cleavage, legs, or nudity can compete with that. 

Dear sisters, if we really treasure our bodies as a temple of God, we should avoid putting them on display for men to lust over. If we really love our bodies, we need to ask ourselves ‘Would we wear this outfit in front of Jesus?’ It may sound drastic, but asking that question allows us to stay in line with God’s command for purity and it makes sure that we are in the world but not of the world. We don’t follow the fashion standards the world sets. We set our own standards and look to honor God with our bodies and our clothing. Let everything we do be an act of worship to God. From the clothes we wear to the jewellery we buy, to the way we present ourselves.

In a world obsessed with image and comparison, modesty anchors us in a deeper truth: our value does not come from our appearance, but from being a woman that reflects Christ-like purity. 

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” —Proverbs 31:30 (NIV)

How do we respond to others who are dressed immodestly?

Being a Godly woman comes with a big ask from God. That we look, but we don’t judge. It's not for us to shame women who don’t dress modestly because God asks us to look for the speck of dust in our own eye first before looking to judge others (Matthew 7:3-5). However, what we can do, is encourage younger women who share the same faith to honor God with their fashion choices.

At the end of the day, modesty isn’t about legalism or shame—it’s a joyful expression of our desire to worship God, walk in humility, and clothe ourselves in dignity.