Confessions of a bride-to-be: I’m exhausted!

For our whole lives, most girls dream of the day of their wedding. To put on that white dress, and walk down the aisle to Prince Charming is something many girls aspire to have. Myself included. And I got super excited the moment I became a fiancé, but little did I know that although weddings can be fun, they can also be a roller coaster.

Confession #1 - Wedding planning can be exhausting - The day I packed all of my suitcases, moved out of my temporary living situation and prepared to get on my flight to my wedding I looked at the dark circles under my eyes.. which had turned from a shade of light grey to a hollow darkness that spoke volumes about my mental and physical state. I then thought to myself “ I’m never doing this again..” and this is coming from someone who initially loved the whole wedding planning process.

Confession #2 - Expect lots of opinions. From those closest to you and those you barely speak to. People will tell you how to run your ceremony, what tradition says, people will have an opinion on whether you should have your wedding outdoors or indoors, even after you’ve already decided. They’ll have an opinion on everything, and as much as it would be easy to say “Tune them out. It’s YOUR day” I’ve been on the side where people’s opinions have affected the way I run things, because the alternative was too uncomfortable to bear.

Confession #3 - The world doesn’t revolve around you and your big day. Be prepared that not everyone will walk on eggshells around you, and bend over backwards to be there. Even friends and family may not always rise to the occasion and be the most helpful. That is because people, for the most part, are in their own worlds, and very seldom will they stop and think about ways to make your pre marital phase easier. People might start drama, be the drama, or just be difficult. Because to them, your wedding is just an event, but to you it’s everything.

Confession #4 - The time you decide to get married till the day you tie the knot (and potentially afterward as well) might be the most financially stressful of your life.

You can expect that almost every income you get is not for you to indulge or enjoy, it will need to go towards your future, your home and your wedding.. unless you have a very small lowkey wedding and not the big white shebang. Every penny needs to be saved, every income needs to be spent and every saving might get depleted. For the few months you are engaged you may find yourself in a tight spot at all times. But there’s nothing to be ashamed of in that, because once you’re standing on that aisle looking at forever, every penny spent will feel worth it.

For my final confession, although I am a tired and overstimulated bride, I also wouldn’t change it for the world. Your wedding day is your one shot to have what you always dreamed about, whether it’s a big or small affair. So deal with the drama, let the mess unravel and rise above it. Weddings are about love and promises, not perfection